Comments on: First Comes Tawjihi Then Comes Marriage http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/ A Jordanian Blog Sat, 20 Mar 2010 16:09:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: nada http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-110596 nada Wed, 09 Jan 2008 02:37:28 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-110596 That’s not necessarily true. Marriage shouldn’t be the only hope in a girl’s future whether she fails or passes tawgihi. Arab females should be more outgoing. Life doesn’t only revolve around marriage. Marriage should be the last thing on anyone’s mind. First have all of your dreams come true. In other words study and major in the major of your dream than experience the work life. , by passing though all of this you’ll be ready for marriage and any circumstances in life. If you just throw yourself into marriage right after tawjihi your personality will be limited and any problems you’ll face with you husband would most likely be very difficult for you to handle due to the fact of your lack of education. Please I am not trying to bring anyone’s potentials down. I mean my grandma didn’t finish school but she’s a great wife and a wonderful grandma, she had the capabilities and potentials to cope with life without the help of school. Some females have are gifted with capabilities and potentials to cope with life like my grandma while others need the time to build their personality through the help of collage. If you have the chance to enter college and to major in anything, you should. But if you don’t have the chance to earn your education and you’re already married or engaged, you can still cope with it by learning through reading, education isn’t only in college and university. You can obtain your on knowledge and education on your on by reading and having the intention of learning. That’s not necessarily true. Marriage shouldn’t be the only hope in a girl’s future whether she fails or passes tawgihi. Arab females should be more outgoing. Life doesn’t only revolve around marriage. Marriage should be the last thing on anyone’s mind. First have all of your dreams come true. In other words study and major in the major of your dream than experience the work life. , by passing though all of this you’ll be ready for marriage and any circumstances in life. If you just throw yourself into marriage right after tawjihi your personality will be limited and any problems you’ll face with you husband would most likely be very difficult for you to handle due to the fact of your lack of education. Please I am not trying to bring anyone’s potentials down. I mean my grandma didn’t finish school but she’s a great wife and a wonderful grandma, she had the capabilities and potentials to cope with life without the help of school. Some females have are gifted with capabilities and potentials to cope with life like my grandma while others need the time to build their personality through the help of collage. If you have the chance to enter college and to major in anything, you should. But if you don’t have the chance to earn your education and you’re already married or engaged, you can still cope with it by learning through reading, education isn’t only in college and university. You can obtain your on knowledge and education on your on by reading and having the intention of learning.

]]> By: dalia http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-78536 dalia Sat, 28 Jul 2007 07:56:31 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-78536 i don't think that all parents like this, cuz i have lovely one, i'm tawjihi for this year so i wish to have high markes, cuz my parents know i'll do it, so plz wish me luck i want to say Congratulation for who get pass .. and good luck for who didn't.. i don’t think that all parents like this, cuz i have lovely one, i’m tawjihi for this year so i wish to have high markes, cuz my parents know i’ll do it, so plz wish me luck
i want to say Congratulation for who get pass .. and good luck for who didn’t..

]]> By: Global Voices Online » Blog Archive » The Jordanian Blogosphere: February Clippings http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-43378 Global Voices Online » Blog Archive » The Jordanian Blogosphere: February Clippings Fri, 23 Feb 2007 13:14:21 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-43378 [...] Are Jordanian women worse drivers than men? Naseem and (Her Eminence) Lubna exchange male and female point of views respectively on the topic. They also tackle another social matter as well: the life line of Jordanian girls. [...] […] Are Jordanian women worse drivers than men? Naseem and (Her Eminence) Lubna exchange male and female point of views respectively on the topic. They also tackle another social matter as well: the life line of Jordanian girls. […]

]]> By: kinzi http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-41268 kinzi Thu, 15 Feb 2007 11:22:12 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-41268 Late again, but this is so sad. I mention the parents, the mom especially, because with my chronological peers the pressure is on them to get the daughter to keep the cycle going. Her honor is distinctly tied to her daughter's honor, and she lives in fear that her daughter might blow it at the last minute and blow the mom's (and whole family's) honor. The mother's reputation as a 'good mom' isn't sealed until the daughter is married and in the cycle again - if the daughter blows it, her life investment in that girl is for nothing and she will live under that shame of that failure. Late again, but this is so sad.

I mention the parents, the mom especially, because with my chronological peers the pressure is on them to get the daughter to keep the cycle going. Her honor is distinctly tied to her daughter’s honor, and she lives in fear that her daughter might blow it at the last minute and blow the mom’s (and whole family’s) honor. The mother’s reputation as a ‘good mom’ isn’t sealed until the daughter is married and in the cycle again - if the daughter blows it, her life investment in that girl is for nothing and she will live under that shame of that failure.

]]> By: Nas http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40572 Nas Mon, 12 Feb 2007 23:12:32 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40572 <b>Lubna:</b> I'll do you one better and link up your posts. It was an interesting read actually. You are right and the strange thing is the group of women you're discussing is much larger than people think. i think the upper middle class and the upper class are probably the only ones who have a limited population of women who are like that, possibly because they can afford it and possibly because of western influences in all its shapes and forms. Lubna: I’ll do you one better and link up your posts. It was an interesting read actually. You are right and the strange thing is the group of women you’re discussing is much larger than people think. i think the upper middle class and the upper class are probably the only ones who have a limited population of women who are like that, possibly because they can afford it and possibly because of western influences in all its shapes and forms.

]]> By: Lubna http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40570 Lubna Mon, 12 Feb 2007 23:00:58 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40570 Naseem... one more post reply to a post of yours (this one).. mind visiting? Naseem… one more post reply to a post of yours (this one).. mind visiting?

]]> By: Nas http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40491 Nas Mon, 12 Feb 2007 17:21:15 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40491 kinzi, yes i suppose there's a parental aspect to it as well. kinzi, yes i suppose there’s a parental aspect to it as well.

]]> By: kinzi http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40409 kinzi Mon, 12 Feb 2007 10:52:44 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/02/12/first-comes-tawjihi-then-comes-marriage/#comment-40409 "Social Salvation"...now that is a topic to delve into. Not just for the girl, but the mom and the dad, mish? “Social Salvation”…now that is a topic to delve into. Not just for the girl, but the mom and the dad, mish?

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