Comments on: ReConnecting In Amman http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/ A Jordanian Blog Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:57:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Nas http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-59741 Nas Wed, 11 Apr 2007 06:24:26 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-59741 <blockquote>cutting people out of my life <b>suddenly and without an explanation</b></blockquote> you're talking about something totally different than what my post refers to :-)

cutting people out of my life suddenly and without an explanation

you’re talking about something totally different than what my post refers to :-)

]]> By: Iman http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-59615 Iman Wed, 11 Apr 2007 00:47:24 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-59615 <blockquote>In what rule book of etiquette is this a necessity?</blockquote> In mine... particularly if these are people I've had some sort of friendship with...I don't prefer cutting people out of my life suddenly and without an explanation - especially if these people still feel that we have a strong friendship of some sort. If I reach a point in which I don't want to have anything to do with an individual I once was close to one way or another, then I owe it up to those moments and perhaps even up to those person's expectations to let him/her know that our 'friendship' isn't what it once was and will never be.

In what rule book of etiquette is this a necessity?

In mine… particularly if these are people I’ve had some sort of friendship with…I don’t prefer cutting people out of my life suddenly and without an explanation - especially if these people still feel that we have a strong friendship of some sort. If I reach a point in which I don’t want to have anything to do with an individual I once was close to one way or another, then I owe it up to those moments and perhaps even up to those person’s expectations to let him/her know that our ‘friendship’ isn’t what it once was and will never be.

]]> By: zahra http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-59018 zahra Mon, 09 Apr 2007 10:08:01 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-59018 'People' just grow apart- what a sad statement. Sadder still is when those 'people' are close family... ‘People’ just grow apart- what a sad statement. Sadder still is when those ‘people’ are close family…

]]> By: Verbal Alchemy http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58891 Verbal Alchemy Mon, 09 Apr 2007 06:57:30 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58891 oh man its as if ur talking bout me trying to connect to ANYONE in this country! altho dubai is multicultural but im just not cut out for an arab country.. u develop acquaintances, but real friends, very hard.. and old school friends have become a distant (nevertheless, happy) memory lilasaf.. ppl just grow apart. oh man its as if ur talking bout me trying to connect to ANYONE in this country! altho dubai is multicultural but im just not cut out for an arab country.. u develop acquaintances, but real friends, very hard.. and old school friends have become a distant (nevertheless, happy) memory lilasaf.. ppl just grow apart.

]]> By: ZZZ http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58734 ZZZ Mon, 09 Apr 2007 00:52:23 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58734 The main problem is that people have wayyy to much time on their hands in Jordan. I've been abroad for 7 years, and every time I go visit, my parents friends pretend to want to see me. We don't have much in common. I identify with your problem, but I dread the day that I do come back, cause I fear all the free time people have on their hands will be directed against me :).. The main problem is that people have wayyy to much time on their hands in Jordan. I’ve been abroad for 7 years, and every time I go visit, my parents friends pretend to want to see me. We don’t have much in common. I identify with your problem, but I dread the day that I do come back, cause I fear all the free time people have on their hands will be directed against me :)..

]]> By: Global Voices Online » Blog Archive » Jordan: Reconnecting in Amman http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58660 Global Voices Online » Blog Archive » Jordan: Reconnecting in Amman Sun, 08 Apr 2007 17:44:35 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58660 [...] The Black Iris recounts the strange etiquette of homecoming…and the odd conversations required: “So no, I don’t feel obligated to “get together” or to “call you”. I don’t want to “catch up”. I don’t want a sit down where people try and gather as much info about your life so they can either compare their life’s situation to yours or gossip about you behind your back; probably both.” Deborah Ann Dilley [...] […] The Black Iris recounts the strange etiquette of homecoming…and the odd conversations required: “So no, I don’t feel obligated to “get together” or to “call you”. I don’t want to “catch up”. I don’t want a sit down where people try and gather as much info about your life so they can either compare their life’s situation to yours or gossip about you behind your back; probably both.” Deborah Ann Dilley […]

]]> By: Nas http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58413 Nas Sun, 08 Apr 2007 06:49:44 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58413 <b>Mohanned and Secratea:</b> thanks for reading both :-) Mohanned and Secratea: thanks for reading both :-)

]]> By: secratea http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58399 secratea Sun, 08 Apr 2007 04:26:06 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58399 Naseem, I completely identify with your experience. when i went back to Jordan for a visit last summer every single person i saw was 3atban that i didn't give THEM a special call and INFORM THEM that i was visiting, as if they cared to call me or at least call my parents to know how I was doing throughout the year. But it is funny how all of a sudden, I become the aleeelit zou2 somehow..lol. well, I am not blaming anyone for this disconnection that happened during the year, but yes, when i go back to Jordan to visit my family I AM NOT OBLIGATED TO CALL OR EVEN VISIT WITH ANYONE other than the people I want to keep as part of my circle. Muhannad, yes yes, I miss my familyyy even the bahadil or conflict parts..lool Oh boy, I can't wait till June to visit them. the posts I am reading these days just erupt my volcanic longings to family... I can't wait ;(( Thanks Naseem for this post :) Naseem, I completely identify with your experience. when i went back to Jordan for a visit last summer every single person i saw was 3atban that i didn’t give THEM a special call and INFORM THEM that i was visiting, as if they cared to call me or at least call my parents to know how I was doing throughout the year. But it is funny how all of a sudden, I become the aleeelit zou2 somehow..lol. well, I am not blaming anyone for this disconnection that happened during the year, but yes, when i go back to Jordan to visit my family I AM NOT OBLIGATED TO CALL OR EVEN VISIT WITH ANYONE other than the people I want to keep as part of my circle.

Muhannad, yes yes, I miss my familyyy even the bahadil or conflict parts..lool Oh boy, I can’t wait till June to visit them. the posts I am reading these days just erupt my volcanic longings to family… I can’t wait ;((
Thanks Naseem for this post :)

]]> By: Mohanned http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58340 Mohanned Sun, 08 Apr 2007 02:12:52 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/04/08/reconnecting-in-amman/#comment-58340 Nas, I have been in the us for almost 3 years, I went for a visit before 4 months and you are 100% on the spot!!And yes after living abroad and becoming more mature your friend list shrinks dramatically, maybe becasue some of your friends just don't want to be mature..And yes you are left with 5-6 close friends who will always be your back.. Living abroad also taught me the meaning of family, I just miss the old days when my dad used to curse me, when they first caught me smoking:D Good post nas!! Nas,
I have been in the us for almost 3 years, I went for a visit before 4 months and you are 100% on the spot!!And yes after living abroad and becoming more mature your friend list shrinks dramatically, maybe becasue some of your friends just don’t want to be mature..And yes you are left with 5-6 close friends who will always be your back..
Living abroad also taught me the meaning of family, I just miss the old days when my dad used to curse me, when they first caught me smoking:D
Good post nas!!

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