Comments on: A Pop Pscychological Look At Blogger Identities http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/ A Jordanian Blog Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:39:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: My Own World: Internet addiction – the black side of the Internet http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80853 My Own World: Internet addiction – the black side of the Internet Wed, 08 Aug 2007 22:45:47 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80853 [...] I don’t know if what I will write is related to this post but I just want to share u my story if u r interested; maybe it will help u ...I have to admit that I have been addicted to the internet for almost 2 years but not on roll, the first year when I was 18 years old the net was some how new for me and for every body, I wanted to know every thing going on in this magical web trying to talk to every body from all over the world, I was so much addicted that I couldn’t feel the time running; it has never been enough.***The addiction stopped when I joined my university I seldom checked my e-mail and my work on the net was pure scientific; University was great I thank allah millions of times that the addiction stopped during that time so I enjoyed my university with my friends and studied well to earn my degree.***After graduation; here it comes the second year of my internet addiction; I joined a forum where I wanted to spend as much time as I can there; On knowing every body to the point of eagerly wanting to meet as much members as I can; in Jordan or when I visited UAE also members who came to visit Jordan from out side, I was really excited to meet all since career life is not that sociable and I still have this good view from university life where every body is kind and honest (at least that was my case). I ended up meeting almost 70 members !!!!*** How did I know I was addicted ? Well I used to think of every body (members) all the time even when I was setting with my family; some times I was Itching to have a computer and internet connection loooool just to know what every body is doing or talking about; that point when I knew how much addicted I am and how addicted people act (alcoholics and smokers)I Just wanted to scream for help.***Then suddenly I stopped and gave it a though! mmmm does it really worth all this ? What a waste of time!! I spend all this time with fake people all what we do is just talking about each others, lying, pretending, gossips, secrets r no longer secrets, people u call friends don't reach under the level of ur friendship standards, grudges, silly girls, manipulative guys,Childish behaviors, I am not an angel but I discovered that all this new for me and I am stupidly kind with every body !! and Spending that time with people where the internet became their life !! OMG it's starting to be mine !!!!!No Wait a minute I don’t want to be like this!***I started to question my self why do I have to do this? Spending my precious time with people whom I don’t really know ….. and u know what I started not to be interested in knowing any, some of them I won’t even think of talking to in my real life … I don’t say I am better than them but they just not my type !on the other hand my family and friends were beginning me to spend a little time with them !!ok this is wrong !!***I knew how involved I was when It started to effect my personal life !It had to stop and I had to heal my self but it should be step by step …. First of all The spark started to be extinguished with time; which helped a lot, secondly I kept in my mind the troubles I’ve been through from spending all this time with all these people which u daily discover new unpleasant things about them; When I didn't ask to know but hye I am already involved ....***I can’t say I quit using the internet or quit participating, but it’s not like before and I started to be very picky meeting any body and there was a big difference especially after I created my blog; I can say I am healed; I am not addicted any more thu sometimes I wish I am cuz it's my space I mean I can be here as much as I can not waiting any body to judge me, hate me or like me ….But lately I feel am wrong and it’s just the same case !Sorry to say that but I rarely spend time browsing other blogs since I get bored easily and don't have much time, also completely not trying to know so many in person unless the once I already do***I wish I know why I was so much addicted those 2 years … my life was/is always busy since the time I graduated and my friends r always around; don't forget my family ….. now when I see anybody so much addicted to the internet I try my best to make them hate it and see how wonderful real life and real people r and make them understand that all what u r doing is just wasting ur time with people don’t even recognize u, when u already have people who cares about u ….***But a word of truth ….. I feel more open minded after reading and discussing so many thoughts which I don't have the chance to argue about them with people around me and some friends I met on the internet and off line I, now consider them one of my best friends thu they r very very rare but they added something to my life and I can’t imagine my life without them ….. [...] […] I don’t know if what I will write is related to this post but I just want to share u my story if u r interested; maybe it will help u …I have to admit that I have been addicted to the internet for almost 2 years but not on roll, the first year when I was 18 years old the net was some how new for me and for every body, I wanted to know every thing going on in this magical web trying to talk to every body from all over the world, I was so much addicted that I couldn’t feel the time running; it has never been enough.***The addiction stopped when I joined my university I seldom checked my e-mail and my work on the net was pure scientific; University was great I thank allah millions of times that the addiction stopped during that time so I enjoyed my university with my friends and studied well to earn my degree.***After graduation; here it comes the second year of my internet addiction; I joined a forum where I wanted to spend as much time as I can there; On knowing every body to the point of eagerly wanting to meet as much members as I can; in Jordan or when I visited UAE also members who came to visit Jordan from out side, I was really excited to meet all since career life is not that sociable and I still have this good view from university life where every body is kind and honest (at least that was my case). I ended up meeting almost 70 members !!!!*** How did I know I was addicted ? Well I used to think of every body (members) all the time even when I was setting with my family; some times I was Itching to have a computer and internet connection loooool just to know what every body is doing or talking about; that point when I knew how much addicted I am and how addicted people act (alcoholics and smokers)I Just wanted to scream for help.***Then suddenly I stopped and gave it a though! mmmm does it really worth all this ? What a waste of time!! I spend all this time with fake people all what we do is just talking about each others, lying, pretending, gossips, secrets r no longer secrets, people u call friends don’t reach under the level of ur friendship standards, grudges, silly girls, manipulative guys,Childish behaviors, I am not an angel but I discovered that all this new for me and I am stupidly kind with every body !! and Spending that time with people where the internet became their life !! OMG it’s starting to be mine !!!!!No Wait a minute I don’t want to be like this!***I started to question my self why do I have to do this? Spending my precious time with people whom I don’t really know ….. and u know what I started not to be interested in knowing any, some of them I won’t even think of talking to in my real life … I don’t say I am better than them but they just not my type !on the other hand my family and friends were beginning me to spend a little time with them !!ok this is wrong !!***I knew how involved I was when It started to effect my personal life !It had to stop and I had to heal my self but it should be step by step …. First of all The spark started to be extinguished with time; which helped a lot, secondly I kept in my mind the troubles I’ve been through from spending all this time with all these people which u daily discover new unpleasant things about them; When I didn’t ask to know but hye I am already involved ….***I can’t say I quit using the internet or quit participating, but it’s not like before and I started to be very picky meeting any body and there was a big difference especially after I created my blog; I can say I am healed; I am not addicted any more thu sometimes I wish I am cuz it’s my space I mean I can be here as much as I can not waiting any body to judge me, hate me or like me ….But lately I feel am wrong and it’s just the same case !Sorry to say that but I rarely spend time browsing other blogs since I get bored easily and don’t have much time, also completely not trying to know so many in person unless the once I already do***I wish I know why I was so much addicted those 2 years … my life was/is always busy since the time I graduated and my friends r always around; don’t forget my family ….. now when I see anybody so much addicted to the internet I try my best to make them hate it and see how wonderful real life and real people r and make them understand that all what u r doing is just wasting ur time with people don’t even recognize u, when u already have people who cares about u ….***But a word of truth ….. I feel more open minded after reading and discussing so many thoughts which I don’t have the chance to argue about them with people around me and some friends I met on the internet and off line I, now consider them one of my best friends thu they r very very rare but they added something to my life and I can’t imagine my life without them ….. […]

]]> By: The Arab Observer: Am I really after Controversy? http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80767 The Arab Observer: Am I really after Controversy? Wed, 08 Aug 2007 10:15:03 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80767 [...] The Arab Observer have made it to be in the list of Qwaider for voting for your favourite male Jordanian blogger, but unfortunatly, it didn't really compete well with only few votes for the Arab Observer (around 8) compared to Bakhouz who dominated the competition with nearly 80 votes so far. Does that upset me? Not really! Maybe a bit :P (damn you Bakhouz!)Two days ago, Nas talked about bloggers identity. He advised bloggers to create a unique identity consistent that seperate them from each other. He claims that being real is what would keep your readers interested in your blog. He ended his post with a question "Isn’t being yourself what blogging is all about? "While I don't agree with all Nas's claims where I don't think that a blogger has to be himself , I find that a blogger identity comes by default. It is a matter of a good identity that appeals to the masses versus a bad one that does only appeal of few people. If a blogger can't manage to build a fan base, then maybe he sould look into ways to make changes to his identity (unless he doesn't want a fanbase in the first place)People have categorized the contenders of the favourite male blogger competition based on their percieved identities. Batir for instance are percieved to be a progressive political writier, while Ahmed Humed is an advertisement/media/marketing expert, Nas is identified with his professional journalism way of writing and the others have their own identification criteria.The Arab Observer seems to be identified by being a Controvesial blog! Secretea said "The Arab Observer always has an interesting take on issues that we, the Jordanian population (from my perspective), rarely think about, like homosexuality, satanists, ...etc. very interesting ;)", while Who-Sane linked to me with a link that have a caption "Controversial Topics"! RedRose recommended me to Radio Monte Carlo to be a young talented writer under Controversial category!The question is do I really love talking about Controversial issues?Some people have accused me before of talking about controversial issues to gain more hits to my blog. While I agree that Controversial issues do gain more people attention, and yes I admit of loving having more readers for what I write, I don't really write about a topic just to gain more hits.What I am after in blogging is a real connection and sharing of ideas between me and other people. I love more when someone disagrees with me than when he agrees. It is always a pleasure to discover a new line of thought or gain a small information that you haven't heard before. I find communicating with people to be the most effective way to learn and grow.I guess that what really identifies my writings is not controversy. If you are a dedicated reader of this blog, you would know that TOLERANCE is what highlights most of my posts. What really drives me to write is an inner need of making other people feel better.Our life is not an easy run. We, human beings, give each other even more hardship than what life gives us because of our fear. We build a wall of rigid rules and ideas refusing to look closer at each individual case and treat the other as much as we hope he treats us.Whether it is women, jews, blacks, homosexuals, satanists, prostitutes and evil holy religious men, we are all human beings. We act according to our circumstances. No one is better than the other (even in his religious believes).I write to draw a smile. To touch your heart. And to open your mind. To feel your humanity and share it with others.No it is controversy I am looking after. It is a call for more compassion and a better life for all of us. [...] […] The Arab Observer have made it to be in the list of Qwaider for voting for your favourite male Jordanian blogger, but unfortunatly, it didn’t really compete well with only few votes for the Arab Observer (around 8) compared to Bakhouz who dominated the competition with nearly 80 votes so far. Does that upset me? Not really! Maybe a bit :P (damn you Bakhouz!)Two days ago, Nas talked about bloggers identity. He advised bloggers to create a unique identity consistent that seperate them from each other. He claims that being real is what would keep your readers interested in your blog. He ended his post with a question “Isn’t being yourself what blogging is all about? “While I don’t agree with all Nas’s claims where I don’t think that a blogger has to be himself , I find that a blogger identity comes by default. It is a matter of a good identity that appeals to the masses versus a bad one that does only appeal of few people. If a blogger can’t manage to build a fan base, then maybe he sould look into ways to make changes to his identity (unless he doesn’t want a fanbase in the first place)People have categorized the contenders of the favourite male blogger competition based on their percieved identities. Batir for instance are percieved to be a progressive political writier, while Ahmed Humed is an advertisement/media/marketing expert, Nas is identified with his professional journalism way of writing and the others have their own identification criteria.The Arab Observer seems to be identified by being a Controvesial blog! Secretea said “The Arab Observer always has an interesting take on issues that we, the Jordanian population (from my perspective), rarely think about, like homosexuality, satanists, …etc. very interesting ;)”, while Who-Sane linked to me with a link that have a caption “Controversial Topics”! RedRose recommended me to Radio Monte Carlo to be a young talented writer under Controversial category!The question is do I really love talking about Controversial issues?Some people have accused me before of talking about controversial issues to gain more hits to my blog. While I agree that Controversial issues do gain more people attention, and yes I admit of loving having more readers for what I write, I don’t really write about a topic just to gain more hits.What I am after in blogging is a real connection and sharing of ideas between me and other people. I love more when someone disagrees with me than when he agrees. It is always a pleasure to discover a new line of thought or gain a small information that you haven’t heard before. I find communicating with people to be the most effective way to learn and grow.I guess that what really identifies my writings is not controversy. If you are a dedicated reader of this blog, you would know that TOLERANCE is what highlights most of my posts. What really drives me to write is an inner need of making other people feel better.Our life is not an easy run. We, human beings, give each other even more hardship than what life gives us because of our fear. We build a wall of rigid rules and ideas refusing to look closer at each individual case and treat the other as much as we hope he treats us.Whether it is women, jews, blacks, homosexuals, satanists, prostitutes and evil holy religious men, we are all human beings. We act according to our circumstances. No one is better than the other (even in his religious believes).I write to draw a smile. To touch your heart. And to open your mind. To feel your humanity and share it with others.No it is controversy I am looking after. It is a call for more compassion and a better life for all of us. […]

]]> By: Hamzeh N. http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80639 Hamzeh N. Tue, 07 Aug 2007 23:31:22 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80639 <blockquote>The fact that the online world allows us more time to react, to think, to formulate responses, to interact.</blockquote> Not many people stop to think about this and appreciate how it relates to the way we interact with each other. It was nice to see it mentioned in the article.

The fact that the online world allows us more time to react, to think, to formulate responses, to interact.

Not many people stop to think about this and appreciate how it relates to the way we interact with each other. It was nice to see it mentioned in the article.

]]> By: Global Voices Online » Sneak Preview of Jordanian Blogger Identities http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80600 Global Voices Online » Sneak Preview of Jordanian Blogger Identities Tue, 07 Aug 2007 16:53:52 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80600 [...] Naseem Tarawneh from Jordan gives us a sneak preview of the identities of bloggers on the Jordanian blogosphere. Share This [...] […] Naseem Tarawneh from Jordan gives us a sneak preview of the identities of bloggers on the Jordanian blogosphere. Share This […]

]]> By: Maha http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80584 Maha Tue, 07 Aug 2007 14:53:17 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80584 "Isn’t being yourself what blogging is all about?" Is it really? i used to think that it's easier for someone to be themselves online and to voice their ideas and thoughts freely..so i thought people online are "real", but time and time again i've been proven wrong, why do we assume that people will choose to be their true selves? if i don't like myself i wouldn't want to be myself...and another variable is myself...it changes..from being at work to being with family to being online...people have blogging personalities. Being whoever you want to be is what blogging is all about...people can call you a fake lying hypocrite ..but so what? they don't know you. Tangent...I used to think that with so many Jordanian preaching intellectualls on the web that our country is heading for a big change in the direction of corrections and improvement...but it's all talk..very few people actually live their words. “Isn’t being yourself what blogging is all about?”
Is it really? i used to think that it’s easier for someone to be themselves online and to voice their ideas and thoughts freely..so i thought people online are “real”, but time and time again i’ve been proven wrong, why do we assume that people will choose to be their true selves? if i don’t like myself i wouldn’t want to be myself…and another variable is myself…it changes..from being at work to being with family to being online…people have blogging personalities.
Being whoever you want to be is what blogging is all about…people can call you a fake lying hypocrite ..but so what? they don’t know you.

Tangent…I used to think that with so many Jordanian preaching intellectualls on the web that our country is heading for a big change in the direction of corrections and improvement…but it’s all talk..very few people actually live their words.

]]> By: Nas http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80583 Nas Tue, 07 Aug 2007 14:27:28 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80583 laila: my contact email is listed above nasnas27 at hotmail dot com laila: my contact email is listed above

nasnas27 at hotmail dot com

]]> By: laila http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80578 laila Tue, 07 Aug 2007 14:03:34 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80578 Hello, I have an inquiry I want to ask about, is it possible to get an email address to send you? Thanks Hello,

I have an inquiry I want to ask about, is it possible to get an email address to send you? Thanks

]]> By: Verbal Alchemy http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80565 Verbal Alchemy Tue, 07 Aug 2007 11:44:37 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80565 i have to admit i agree with mo a lot on this one, zakartouni bi mahjoob, inno why do ppl take virtual communities so seriously? its just for fun, and speaking our minds off. inno why do we love to over analyze ppl's characters and their vanity and intentions (human nature im presuming), write whatever u wish and be whoever u r, its ur space! why do blogs have to be personal in the first place, they can simply exclude all daily details of our lives, and our names and our whereabouts and job descriptions, it can just be a place for our intellectual input.. and/or artistic interests, and/or sarcasm on social issues. it doesnt have to revolve around us. and why do ppl meet bloggers anyway! bastaghreb sara7a, what happens in vegas stays in vegas, or so it shud. u deal with ppl online, why do u have to drag em out to ur real world? i think curiousity shud have been one of the deadly sins! i have to admit i agree with mo a lot on this one, zakartouni bi mahjoob, inno why do ppl take virtual communities so seriously? its just for fun, and speaking our minds off. inno why do we love to over analyze ppl’s characters and their vanity and intentions (human nature im presuming), write whatever u wish and be whoever u r, its ur space!

why do blogs have to be personal in the first place, they can simply exclude all daily details of our lives, and our names and our whereabouts and job descriptions, it can just be a place for our intellectual input.. and/or artistic interests, and/or sarcasm on social issues. it doesnt have to revolve around us.

and why do ppl meet bloggers anyway! bastaghreb sara7a, what happens in vegas stays in vegas, or so it shud. u deal with ppl online, why do u have to drag em out to ur real world? i think curiousity shud have been one of the deadly sins!

]]> By: Ola http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80559 Ola Tue, 07 Aug 2007 10:11:26 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80559 That last analogy was superb :D You know I've developed aphobia for meeting bloggers or anyone I know online in person! That should say something, because when I first started mingling in the cyber world I hadn't expected someone could be so different from reality,I don't mean those who are shy or stuff, I mean those who fake a totally different personality on purpose... That last analogy was superb :D

You know I’ve developed aphobia for meeting bloggers or anyone I know online in person! That should say something, because when I first started mingling in the cyber world I hadn’t expected someone could be so different from reality,I don’t mean those who are shy or stuff, I mean those who fake a totally different personality on purpose…

]]> By: Who-sane http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80556 Who-sane Tue, 07 Aug 2007 09:37:47 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80556 I think the problem of having a different identity online stems from the fact that the blogger is writing for his audience, similar to a journalist who writes for a living and takes assignments from his editor in chief to write about topics he might not quite believe in or support. For some people here, blogging is a daily job. I think the problem of having a different identity online stems from the fact that the blogger is writing for his audience, similar to a journalist who writes for a living and takes assignments from his editor in chief to write about topics he might not quite believe in or support. For some people here, blogging is a daily job.

]]> By: Mazz http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80555 Mazz Tue, 07 Aug 2007 09:32:17 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80555 so you found out about me have you? well i might as well fess up... ladies and gents, my real name is zorg from the planter zorpina. i have super witty statements and sharp come backs. not really being one's self is easier when it comes to blogging and the online world. however, this has become somewhat of an issue as the internet world and the real world are now very slightly separated and are merging into one giant organism. but i like it, bit by bit people will adopt their online character and it shall become their off line character. which will eventually result in more tolerance towards differences and cultural beliefs. but at the same time, it exposes people to all sorts of media. which can corrupt our identity as arabs, muslims, christians, jews, or whatever that identity is. wait, maybe corruption is not the right word...whatever it is, people will have to get more educated to cope with this rapid change in our community. excellent post nas, keep up the good stuff. so you found out about me have you? well i might as well fess up…
ladies and gents, my real name is zorg from the planter zorpina. i have super witty statements and sharp come backs.
not really
being one’s self is easier when it comes to blogging and the online world. however, this has become somewhat of an issue as the internet world and the real world are now very slightly separated and are merging into one giant organism.
but i like it, bit by bit people will adopt their online character and it shall become their off line character. which will eventually result in more tolerance towards differences and cultural beliefs. but at the same time, it exposes people to all sorts of media. which can corrupt our identity as arabs, muslims, christians, jews, or whatever that identity is.
wait, maybe corruption is not the right word…whatever it is, people will have to get more educated to cope with this rapid change in our community.
excellent post nas, keep up the good stuff.

]]> By: Qabbani http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80546 Qabbani Tue, 07 Aug 2007 07:58:53 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80546 walla 3ala rasi :) walla 3ala rasi :)

]]> By: bambam http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80538 bambam Tue, 07 Aug 2007 07:10:37 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80538 one question, whats the connection here to the issue ? whether the mask that they wear is "fake" or not in your eyes it is still pretty much part of them and didn't come from a void so it is regardless of your observation part of their true identity. why is that really relevant, why do we have to get along with each other like KG play ground kids ? if i don't like something i either observe from the distance or I erase their existence from my world no need for being immature and childish about it. for this to be an issue in and by itself is more of an issue that issue itself (hows that for a convoluted statement) one question, whats the connection here to the issue ?
whether the mask that they wear is “fake” or not in your eyes it is still pretty much part of them and didn’t come from a void so it is regardless of your observation part of their true identity.
why is that really relevant, why do we have to get along with each other like KG play ground kids ? if i don’t like something i either observe from the distance or I erase their existence from my world no need for being immature and childish about it.

for this to be an issue in and by itself is more of an issue that issue itself (hows that for a convoluted statement)

]]> By: mo http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80537 mo Tue, 07 Aug 2007 06:58:24 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80537 it never ceases to amaze me how seriously some people take the virtual world .. your talk about a fight in the blogger world and pro and anti camps reminds me of all the fights ive witnessed at mahjoob lol .. really i am amazed by how intense some of those things get considering that the whole thing is taking place on a monitor!! regarding the why do people blog q - is it an escape or a chance to be someone else or a place to vent or or or .. personally .. i see my blog as my own personal newspaper if you will .. i can write my own column or op-ed piece if i wish, or just share some news from around the world, maybe some photos .. and i hope that people find it interesting enough to want to continue reading it .. it's just my little contribution to the online community :P it never ceases to amaze me how seriously some people take the virtual world .. your talk about a fight in the blogger world and pro and anti camps reminds me of all the fights ive witnessed at mahjoob lol .. really i am amazed by how intense some of those things get considering that the whole thing is taking place on a monitor!!

regarding the why do people blog q - is it an escape or a chance to be someone else or a place to vent or or or ..
personally .. i see my blog as my own personal newspaper if you will .. i can write my own column or op-ed piece if i wish, or just share some news from around the world, maybe some photos .. and i hope that people find it interesting enough to want to continue reading it .. it’s just my little contribution to the online community :P

]]> By: The Observer http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80531 The Observer Tue, 07 Aug 2007 05:48:04 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80531 Isn’t being yourself what blogging is all about? No, it is not! I don't care if any of the bloggers I read for them are being themselves online. What matters to me is the content they right. If, as you said, they are being more funny for instance online, then that is good. No one can reflect his complete real self. Maybe there is no a complete real self as even on my daily life I find myself acting differently with different people. I sure have an identity, a certain characteristics that distinguish me from other people, but it might not be clear to all, some would see part of those characteristics, others would see a different part. Online, I discovered a new way of communication. Very different than my daily chat with different people. Something like documenting my inner thoughts and share them with others. It is not easy to find time and people to talk to them with such sincerety without an interruption to the sequence of your thoughts. I enjoy the exchange of ideas and love the exchange of feelings between people online. I guess that identity comes by default. Each one of us is different than the other. There is no need to work on that. It just shows itself in everything on your blog and the way you communicate yourself. If some people build a fake identity, then it is their matter. Readers would decide what is good to read. Sometimes a liar can be more interesting than a complete honest person. The most enjoyable part of our blogsphere is its diversity. Let each one of us express himself in the way he finds more suitable. Isn’t being yourself what blogging is all about?

No, it is not! I don’t care if any of the bloggers I read for them are being themselves online. What matters to me is the content they right. If, as you said, they are being more funny for instance online, then that is good. No one can reflect his complete real self. Maybe there is no a complete real self as even on my daily life I find myself acting differently with different people. I sure have an identity, a certain characteristics that distinguish me from other people, but it might not be clear to all, some would see part of those characteristics, others would see a different part.

Online, I discovered a new way of communication. Very different than my daily chat with different people. Something like documenting my inner thoughts and share them with others. It is not easy to find time and people to talk to them with such sincerety without an interruption to the sequence of your thoughts. I enjoy the exchange of ideas and love the exchange of feelings between people online.

I guess that identity comes by default. Each one of us is different than the other. There is no need to work on that. It just shows itself in everything on your blog and the way you communicate yourself. If some people build a fake identity, then it is their matter. Readers would decide what is good to read. Sometimes a liar can be more interesting than a complete honest person.

The most enjoyable part of our blogsphere is its diversity. Let each one of us express himself in the way he finds more suitable.

]]> By: kinzi http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80529 kinzi Tue, 07 Aug 2007 05:38:23 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80529 Very well said and thought provoking. When I started blogging, I asked a couple of my off-line friends (plus hubby) to read it and keep me accountable to be my true self. They've all caught me veering at some point, as I want to be who I am on and off-line. This is a good warning. Very well said and thought provoking. When I started blogging, I asked a couple of my off-line friends (plus hubby) to read it and keep me accountable to be my true self. They’ve all caught me veering at some point, as I want to be who I am on and off-line. This is a good warning.

]]> By: Hareega http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80497 Hareega Tue, 07 Aug 2007 03:29:46 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80497 Interesting entry. I'm slightly a different person when I blog. I started watching out for profanity which I use every other second because readers started complaining, and I sometimes try to be politically correct when I write because people got offended a few times, although in real life I'm anything but politically correct (I'm so vulgar to the extreme). It's Ok for people not to be themselves when they blog. We read blogs sometimes because we enjoy going to a different world other than the real one, and a sense of perfect people (bloggers) who are very honest and kind and who are peace-loving and trying to save the world gives some comfort. Interesting entry. I’m slightly a different person when I blog. I started watching out for profanity which I use every other second because readers started complaining, and I sometimes try to be politically correct when I write because people got offended a few times, although in real life I’m anything but politically correct (I’m so vulgar to the extreme).

It’s Ok for people not to be themselves when they blog. We read blogs sometimes because we enjoy going to a different world other than the real one, and a sense of perfect people (bloggers) who are very honest and kind and who are peace-loving and trying to save the world gives some comfort.

]]> By: secratea http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80494 secratea Tue, 07 Aug 2007 03:16:53 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80494 I just started a blog out of boredom, which I doubt I will maintain once school starts, hehehe :D I love reading blogs, but I still can't get myself write regularly.. I don't know how some bloggers have been able to go on for a year or two. Back to the subject of this article, I agree that a blogger should try hard to stick to his/her real life identity-- especially if the blogger is the type that writes about personal matters. I just started a blog out of boredom, which I doubt I will maintain once school starts, hehehe :D
I love reading blogs, but I still can’t get myself write regularly.. I don’t know how some bloggers have been able to go on for a year or two.
Back to the subject of this article, I agree that a blogger should try hard to stick to his/her real life identity– especially if the blogger is the type that writes about personal matters.

]]> By: Nas http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80474 Nas Tue, 07 Aug 2007 01:21:45 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80474 <b>SimSim:</b> <blockquote>For me I think Having a virtual space just like the real one; That was the reason why I started blogging.</blockquote> one of the best reasons I've heard so far <b>Qwaider:</b> <blockquote>If no one can be the same person after blogging (since even 1 degree of divergence at a million miles will end up 17 thousand miles away) Then how can one be themselves. Many good examples of people who decided to go with an identity, (Mala2e6, 7aki-fadi, …etc) who were very successful in what they presented.</blockquote> Thanks for the comment. Two things to note here. First, the math is odd. I believe that no one is 100% themselves on the Net, simply because of what it has to offer. But this comes back to intentions. Do you intend to be as different as possible? Then you'll end up at the 180 degree mark. The 1 to 5 degrees are like an insignificant and forgivable margin of error. The intentions of these people are to stay as true to their true selves as possible. Talk about the issues they personally want to talk about. Post just anything they want because it's their space and they wouldn't act any different in public. Second, sadly I don't read Mala2e6 too often but I do read 7aki's blog. I think, judging by their writing, you might be confusing what I mean by 'identity'. These are bloggers who have created <em>aliases</em> because they don't want to share their name with people. But yet the content is a reflection of an actual person and actual events. There's no fakeness to it (from what I've read). <blockquote>Sometimes, people need to look at the ideas in abstract of the person promoting them. Are these ideas true? Are they suitable? Are they related to me? Instead of focusing on the tie of the speaker. I’m sure you know what I mean</blockquote> That's true but a blog is not a classroom-teacher relationship. There is a relationship, a connection, between reader and blogger. I read certain blogs not because the blogger has just spit out some random, perhaps even controversial topic, just for the sake of (fill in the blank) but rather because I have an interest in what <em>that</em> blogger has to say. For example. I can read about issues on Marc's blog (abuaardvark) on a bunch of news sites, but the reason I read his blog is because I want to read what HE has to say about it. I, as a reader, have a connection with that blogger. In the same way I visit Roba's blog because I expect to see something lighthearted, or an issue in a whole other light, something quirky, something fun. Because these are attributes of her own self reflected in blog form. The same can be said with Lina. If you were in a room with these bloggers and you didn't know their blogs, you could, within a few minutes of speaking with them, make the connection between blog and blogger. That's what I'm talking about. <blockquote>One last thing, don’t you think it would be a little bit hard for people to hide in their blogs and portray a super hero character when their friends, colleagues and family members are reading everything they write? Wouldn’t this be a driving factor for people to actually not diverge from their ego?</blockquote> I've found that those most fooled by a person's 'other' identity are those closest to him. Clark Kent and Lois Lane. Peter Parker and Mary Jane. Friends and family know the person more than the blogger or the alter-ego. The former is so dominant that anything the latter does is often swallowed up. SimSim:

For me I think Having a virtual space just like the real one; That was the reason why I started blogging.

one of the best reasons I’ve heard so far

Qwaider:

If no one can be the same person after blogging (since even 1 degree of divergence at a million miles will end up 17 thousand miles away) Then how can one be themselves.

Many good examples of people who decided to go with an identity, (Mala2e6, 7aki-fadi, …etc) who were very successful in what they presented.

Thanks for the comment. Two things to note here. First, the math is odd. I believe that no one is 100% themselves on the Net, simply because of what it has to offer. But this comes back to intentions. Do you intend to be as different as possible? Then you’ll end up at the 180 degree mark. The 1 to 5 degrees are like an insignificant and forgivable margin of error. The intentions of these people are to stay as true to their true selves as possible. Talk about the issues they personally want to talk about. Post just anything they want because it’s their space and they wouldn’t act any different in public.

Second, sadly I don’t read Mala2e6 too often but I do read 7aki’s blog. I think, judging by their writing, you might be confusing what I mean by ‘identity’. These are bloggers who have created aliases because they don’t want to share their name with people. But yet the content is a reflection of an actual person and actual events. There’s no fakeness to it (from what I’ve read).

Sometimes, people need to look at the ideas in abstract of the person promoting them. Are these ideas true? Are they suitable? Are they related to me? Instead of focusing on the tie of the speaker. I’m sure you know what I mean

That’s true but a blog is not a classroom-teacher relationship. There is a relationship, a connection, between reader and blogger. I read certain blogs not because the blogger has just spit out some random, perhaps even controversial topic, just for the sake of (fill in the blank) but rather because I have an interest in what that blogger has to say.

For example.

I can read about issues on Marc’s blog (abuaardvark) on a bunch of news sites, but the reason I read his blog is because I want to read what HE has to say about it. I, as a reader, have a connection with that blogger. In the same way I visit Roba’s blog because I expect to see something lighthearted, or an issue in a whole other light, something quirky, something fun. Because these are attributes of her own self reflected in blog form. The same can be said with Lina.

If you were in a room with these bloggers and you didn’t know their blogs, you could, within a few minutes of speaking with them, make the connection between blog and blogger.

That’s what I’m talking about.

One last thing, don’t you think it would be a little bit hard for people to hide in their blogs and portray a super hero character when their friends, colleagues and family members are reading everything they write? Wouldn’t this be a driving factor for people to actually not diverge from their ego?

I’ve found that those most fooled by a person’s ‘other’ identity are those closest to him. Clark Kent and Lois Lane. Peter Parker and Mary Jane. Friends and family know the person more than the blogger or the alter-ego. The former is so dominant that anything the latter does is often swallowed up.

]]> By: Qwaider قويدر http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80471 Qwaider قويدر Tue, 07 Aug 2007 00:33:45 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80471 I loved reading this article. I really enjoyed it for more than one reason. But I was faced with a little contradiction, If no one can be the same person after blogging (since even 1 degree of divergence at a million miles will end up 17 thousand miles away) Then how can one be themselves. Many good examples of people who decided to go with an identity, (Mala2e6, 7aki-fadi, ...etc) who were very successful in what they presented. Sometimes, people need to look at the ideas in abstract of the person promoting them. Are these ideas true? Are they suitable? Are they related to me? Instead of focusing on the tie of the speaker. I'm sure you know what I mean Finally, there is no written rule that says fame and glory are disqualifying offenses if you seek them. Many successes for the whole human race were built on nothing more than good old capitalist self indulgent reasons. And you know what? We're all in their debt. Nas, there is a lot that is left unsaid, and better stay like. One last thing, don't you think it would be a little bit hard for people to hide in their blogs and portray a super hero character when their friends, colleagues and family members are reading everything they write? Wouldn't this be a driving factor for people to actually not diverge from their ego? If there is one thing I learned from my online "experience" it would be that many things are not what they appear to be Again, thanks for the awesome article I loved reading this article. I really enjoyed it for more than one reason. But I was faced with a little contradiction,
If no one can be the same person after blogging (since even 1 degree of divergence at a million miles will end up 17 thousand miles away) Then how can one be themselves.

Many good examples of people who decided to go with an identity, (Mala2e6, 7aki-fadi, …etc) who were very successful in what they presented.

Sometimes, people need to look at the ideas in abstract of the person promoting them. Are these ideas true? Are they suitable? Are they related to me? Instead of focusing on the tie of the speaker. I’m sure you know what I mean

Finally, there is no written rule that says fame and glory are disqualifying offenses if you seek them. Many successes for the whole human race were built on nothing more than good old capitalist self indulgent reasons. And you know what? We’re all in their debt.

Nas, there is a lot that is left unsaid, and better stay like.

One last thing, don’t you think it would be a little bit hard for people to hide in their blogs and portray a super hero character when their friends, colleagues and family members are reading everything they write? Wouldn’t this be a driving factor for people to actually not diverge from their ego?

If there is one thing I learned from my online “experience” it would be that many things are not what they appear to be

Again, thanks for the awesome article

]]> By: SimSim http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80468 SimSim Tue, 07 Aug 2007 00:15:50 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80468 Wooow If I read ur post before I created my blog I would have changed my mind loool For me I think Having a virtual space just like the real one; That was the reason why I started blogging. it’s like the space where I can say whatever I want whenever I want without bothering anybody, or having no one around me that moment to listen; sure without masks … because it’s like I am talking to my self; so if I lied then I lie to me … and the least thing I care about is people’s opinion about me ! Seriously …. Whether I am popular or others like me or not what do I get? I will re-read what I wrote once and it has to be true for Me not for anybody Nice piece Wooow If I read ur post before I created my blog I would have changed my mind loool

For me I think Having a virtual space just like the real one; That was the reason why I started blogging.

it’s like the space where I can say whatever I want whenever I want without bothering anybody, or having no one around me that moment to listen; sure without masks … because it’s like I am talking to my self; so if I lied then I lie to me … and the least thing I care about is people’s opinion about me ! Seriously …. Whether I am popular or others like me or not what do I get?

I will re-read what I wrote once and it has to be true for Me not for anybody

Nice piece

]]> By: Mohanned http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80466 Mohanned Mon, 06 Aug 2007 23:49:48 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80466 You must also look at the fact that most people are emotional and if they disagree with you once they "hate" you..Anyway what you said has some truth to it, but the online world is an image of the real world. Well Written :) You must also look at the fact that most people are emotional and if they disagree with you once they “hate” you..Anyway what you said has some truth to it, but the online world is an image of the real world.

Well Written :)

]]> By: hamede http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80463 hamede Mon, 06 Aug 2007 23:36:27 +0000 http://www.black-iris.com/2007/08/07/a-pop-pscychological-look-at-blogger-identities/#comment-80463 Ya be yourself i agree. Ya be yourself i agree.

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